Grass is Greener

When it comes to this generation, I’m convinced that many of us perpetually operate under the “grass is greener elsewhere” mentality. Given the accessibility to so many things these days like dating apps, or the normalcy of switching jobs every few years, it’s easy to always think that life could be better if we were doing something else, dating someone else, living somewhere else, etc. Social media has completely worsened this effect in my opinion, only offering curated perfect versions of peoples’ lives, constantly making us feel left out or questioning our own happiness in comparison to our peers’.

Gone are the days when our parents and grandparents started a job and stayed there for 30 years. Back then, the goals seemed pretty straight-forward, get a job to support your family and put food on the table. I doubt they were asked if they were happy nor did it really matter, they were just doing what generations before had done. Nowadays, people can triple major or get internships to try to figure out what they want to do, or go back to school soon after graduating or at any point once they change their minds.

I’m not saying that this is a bad thing by any means. It’s amazing for those who are fortunate enough to be able to decide what they want to do or have the opportunity to find what they love. However, to open your opportunities up to the world really does open the gauntlet of overwhelming there are so many options, and the second we’re unhappy or have any doubts, it’s easy to think an alternative would be better.

Unfortunately my parents were the most supportive “follow your dreams” kind of people…. totally joking, they are the best and I would not have wanted any different kind of upbringing. However, much like comedians and musicians often write their best material from suppressed childhoods of teen angst, this environment can give you an overwhelming number of possibilities. I mean COME ON Mom and Dad, you even let Katie (my sister) entertain the thought that she would be on broadway….(luh you Kate).

This “grass is greener” or even “other fish in the sea” mentality in regards to dating is pretty dangerous. I am fully guilty of both of these and I fear if I continue to live for the future or think this way, I will never truly be satisfied. I think contentment is partially finding the right fit or person, but also it’s a choice. By no means should we settle, but we cannot live in a world where we expect perfection or that every box will be checked on our long lists of needs and wants. We need to be selective in what we truly need and want and must compromise on the other pieces.

Lauren Nopar